SELF ACCEPTANCE
THE MANTRA FOR PEACE AND PROGRESS
- "Who else will accept us, if we do not accept our own self?"
- Self acceptance is our journey towards our own completeness and our own fulfillment.
- It is our recognition of our own true nature and being at complete peace with it.
- What happens, if we do not recognize and accept our true nature?
- We begin to feel insufficient, shameful, fearful and angry.
- We can not love our own self. We also begin to feel that others also do not love us.
- We will look at all others with some suspicion most of the time.
- Our SELF-NON-ACCEPTANCE makes us adopt unnatural facades.
- Like superiority or inferiority complex;
- Other self destructive habits like intoxicating drinks, drugs, excessive or unnatural sex, excessive sleep, excessive work, excessive eating, lack of sleep, laziness, aversion to eating and so on.
- These escape routes blunt our sensibilities.
- When we are in Self-Non-Acceptance mode, we become highly sensitive to each mistake of ours, small or big, and of mistakes of others.
- We can’t take the slightest criticism or suggestion easily.
- Our feelings of INSUFFICIENCY grow with time and assume huge, phantom like shape in our life. We see our insufficiency in every thing; and every where.
- We begin to feel, we are not good enough in this world; we are born to be losers; better not to befriend any one who looks like a winner.
- We begin to feel a sense of shame at each mistake and cannot take the same easily in life.
- We feel there is some thing wrong with us.
- We either reduce or stop talking to others around us.
- In the non-acceptance mode, we either try to avoid the scene or if forced into it, start fighting with others or somehow find a way to conform at least externally to the accepted behavior. Yet, internally, we are not at peace with the situation. We suppress our naturalness out of shame.
- This feeling of insufficiency, the denial mode and the social withdrawal may lead us into depression or into violence. We feel a sense of hopelessness or haplessness or some times, a constant one-up-man-ship which is a facade for internal insufficiency.
- The SELF-NON-ACCEPTING PERSON poses, and shouts vociferously - that he is right in his "ISM" or ideology - be it, economic, religious, scientific or whatever. Every such person poses as if he is right and others are wrong – even while deep within, he is aware that he is himself insufficient and has no answers to many crucial questions in his "ISM" and others are finding it out.
- Without Self Acceptance, however much we become better, we never feel good enough. We feel better than some but worse than many. Our habits make us feel worse, rather than comforting us in any way. Many times, the compulsiveness of our habits frustrates us.
- We feel rejected by other people. In fact, it is we who are moving away from them.This feeling of rejection and pain hurts us badly.
- How do we get away from all this?
- Just forgive our self and accept whatever we are.
- Let us accept our self and also others – as we are and as they are, without any pre-conditions, without any value judgments. If we are insufficient in some ways, so are they, in some ways.
- Accepting our self – gives us a huge freedom – from our sense of shame,guilt, anger, insufficiency,love-less-ness,rejection by others, loneliness and so on.
- Self acceptance is, in other words, developing sincere, unconditional love for our self.
- Love your self as you are. Love your parents, your spouse, your children, your neighbours and your friends and colleagues unconditionally. Love with full awareness of all of their short comings and your shortcomings. Make your self and make them comfortable.
- Forgive them their shortcomings. Forgive your self your shortcomings.
- Strive to develop deeper friendships with others, communicate freely with them, be aware of their sensibilities and respect them.
- Do not tread on their weak spots. Nor, on yours!
- Make a habit of looking at your successes and building on them.
- Approach yourself as a successful person, capable of some successes at least. Forgive all of your past mistakes, failings, indiscretions and sins.Let them not take centre stage in your life any more.
- Remember the more beautiful moments of your life, your successful moments, your moments of love and happiness. Talk of them with any one who listens with a little empathy. Live all those beautiful moments of your life again and again. This is, in fact, the best use of our PAST.
- Write a Diary or a Journal of all that you are doing right, all that you did right in the past and all that you want to do right in the immediate future. Read it again and again to convince your self that you are a successful person and not a failure in life.
- It is a matter of time that your past successes inspire you into much greater successes in the present.
- Attempt small successes which you know you can achieve. Build Your Self Confidence. In every one of your attempts, look at the ELEMENT OF SUCCESS, even if you have not achieved the goal you have set out for.
- Let us say, you jumped only 4 feet and not 6 feet, as planned by you. Is it a success or a failure? Look at the 4 feet of success more and determine to exceed it in time.Yes, it is a success. Next time, it will be five and then six. But, each point is a success and not a failure.
- No one jumps ten feet in first attempt. The one who succeeds is always the one who tries till he succeeds.
- Do things,which you like. Try to get a job or profession of your liking. Else, find what you can like in your job and excel in that - even while improving your efficiency on other parts of the job.
- Life consists in liking the things that we are given and then, trying for better things. You can't afford to dislike any thing or any one that LIFE GIVES YOU.
- ACCEPT WHAT LIFE GIVES YOU.
- There is one GOLDEN RULE that makes you happy instantly.
- Help some one in need. Don't wait till you are asked.
- Go out and help some one in dire need. Make some one in need happy.
- How does that help? It brings some happiness to the other person. More important, it brings you immense happiness and self confidence.
- In time, you will have friends, love, peace, respect, confidence and happiness. Whatever insufficiency you felt earlier will not bother you at all now.
- Your self confidence grows, with each event of help you bring about in your life.Your SELF ACCEPTANCE grows. In time it would have grown phenomenally.
- You will find that you are a pleasant, affable, loving and lovable and happy person. Your physical health too would have improved a lot.
- Remember, like you, everybody wants from others - acceptance. recognition, understanding, love, empathy, patience, kindness, encouragement,and all other beautiful things of life. We all want these things. These valuable things are absolutely free!
- Do not remain a beggar for these essentials of life. So long that you beg for them, you may not get them, or get very little of them in your life.
- Become an emperor for them and start distributing them profusely to all those around you. realize you have them in you in abundance.
- And the emperor, that is YOU, gets them back from all those around you, several fold larger and better.
- Remember the most illustrious examples like Hellen Keller. With much more handicaps, they lived much more joyously than most of us. So, a Life of Joy is possible - with all of your handicaps and insufficiency.
- Decide NOW. Accept your self wholeheartedly and unconditionally. Accept others likewise. Get on to the path of success, Love and joy.
+ + + + E N D + + + +
No comments:
Post a Comment